Public speaking: performance vs. connection

I read an article recently where the public speaking expert said that public speaking is not a performance; it's about making a connection with the audience.

I find this comment a little baffling. Is it possible that a person can only perform or connect, but not both?

Can you be authentic, have a relationship with the audience, and still "perform?"

I think you can, and I think the best speakers (and for that matter, performers) do.

(See my posts on Dick Dale and David Lee Roth for examples).

A performance is about entertainment. A relationship is about connection. When I give a presentation, I want the audience to feel entertained. I want them to enjoy our time together and I want them to remember it when we're finished. Does that mean I'm inauthentic?

When I give a presentation, I also like to make personal connections with the audience. It's my style, it's who I am. I make friends with the audience members before I even begin the presentation and cultivate that throughout the event. Does that mean I'm not a performer?

There are times when I'm not "up" for giving a presentation. Maybe I'm under the weather, or tired, or distracted. I still show up and give it all I've got, because the show must go on. That's a performance, baby.

Thinking of the presentation as a performance might contribute to some public speaking anxiety, while thinking of it as a conversation with friends might reduce some anxiety. Can you think of it as both? I can guarantee that you've had conversations with your friends where you've entertained them with jokes or funny stories. Connection/performance - why nitpick?

Do both. Give a performance while also building a relationship. It's really not that complicated and gives your presentation more depth. The performance and the relationship together are what get you invited back.

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