November 11, 2024

Pirate energy



Rachel Maddow gave an impassioned speech after the election last week. This is what I needed to hear and what many of use need to hear, internalize and act on. Let's go, pirate energy!

"If you are an American citizen who does not want to ash can the American system of government, who doesn't want a strongman, authoritarian system where the whole government is one guy and everything else just exists to serve him—if that is not the kind of country that you want—then yesterday's election means you have more to do for your country than you have ever done before. 

Because now is when the rubber really hits the road, right? We don’t just flip a switch, and the American system of government is gone. Democracy is gone. It doesn’t work like that. I mean, not to be boring here for a second, but just getting very real.

We are now just another one in the list of countries that has decided to, you know, hey, what the heck, let’s try the strongman thing. Let’s let democracy go. Let’s put in an all-powerful guy instead and see how it goes. There are many more countries in the world governed by that kind of a system than there are governed by ours. 

We are the only 248-year-old, multiracial, pluralistic democracy in the world. And shall we keep it? A lot of our fellow Americans say we shouldn’t. Now we know. Now we know for sure. But a lot of Americans, tens of millions of Americans, say we should keep that system—which means it’s time to fight for it.

And yes, Americans did fight for it by working on this election, by trying to get the candidate elected who was both the Democrat and the small-d democrat. She didn’t win. The strongman candidate won instead. But now history doesn’t end. Time doesn’t stop. Now, we have the benefit of knowing, you know, how this has gone in every other country that has been through a democracy-to-authoritarian transition. And sadly, there are a lot of them. We have the benefit of seeing what’s happened in those other countries though. And what we know is that the more ground the authoritarian takes, the harder it is to ever get that ground back.

And so the first order of business is to stop them from taking any uncontested ground, right from the outset when it comes to what our system of government is and what our democracy is, right? We know from other countries' experiences that, quickly—I mean, now, in the next few weeks, if not the next few days—they are going to start pushing to see how far the country is going to let them go without pushback, without protest. And part of this is because it’s just psychologically advantageous for them to do this now, right?

They’re counting on the half of the country that voted against them, the half of the country that doesn’t want to give up our system of government. They’re counting on all those tens of millions of Americans to be despondent, to feel powerless, to check out—which, of course, would mean letting them do what they want, letting them run the table.

What they really don’t want is for the half of the country that voted against them, the half of the country that wants to keep our democracy. What they really don’t want is for those tens of millions of Americans to wake up tomorrow feeling scrappy as hell.

Feeling sure, regretful about the election outcome, but also, frankly, freed up from having to spend all of our time working on the election. So now we can work full time on being frickin’ pirates, on being a thorn in the side of anyone who now intends to try to turn this country into some tin-pot tyranny. What they want least of all is to realize that half the country went to bed sad tonight but then woke up tomorrow fired up with a new sense of purpose, knowing that apparently this is what we’re on this earth to do as American citizens in this generation. 

Because history did not just end. Time did not just stop. We just got marching orders from the universe and the Electoral College that, as of today, American citizens who do want to hold on to democracy, we know exactly what we’re going to be spending the next days and weeks, and likely years, of our lives working on.

And the strategic first moves come into focus quickly when you think about what other countries have shown us about how hard it is to regain democratic ground once an authoritarian leader has taken that ground. And the work has to be done now. The work that has to be done now—it has to happen in sort of every aspect, every corner of our society. 

The U.S. military needs to give the American people binding assurances that they will not deploy U.S. military force against the civilian population in this country. They can give those assurances, and now they should. 

The free press needs to give the people of this country assurances that they will not become state TV, that they will stand and fight together. They will put aside rivalries and petty professional differences. They will stand and fight together as the free press, as the fourth estate, as an institution that is a pillar of our democracy as these guys on the other side inevitably start picking off individual journalists, individual publishers, individual news organizations to try ultimately to turn us all into some American-accented version of RT. 

If the Democratic Party takes the House, expect Article I of the Constitution to come under attack—by which I mean, expect efforts to hollow out the power of Congress, to make Congress a just-for-show institution, right? There’s a reason actions of the Russian Duma never make news, right?

Expect efforts to attack Article I, to make it a just-for-show institution that has had its real powers taken over by the executive, by the dear leader. We are going to need a plan and some steel spine inserts among elected officials in Washington to head that off. We’re going to need the whole country to recognize that risk in advance, to call it what it is when they try it, and to actively resist it.

Depending on whether the courts can provide a check on this administration, expect Article III of the Constitution to come under attack as well. It is already a fetish and a laugh line on the right to brag about how court orders really mean nothing and physical force and violence is what ultimately really decides what’s allowed. Well, we have to decide if that laugh line from them is going to become our reality or whether we’re going to resist that.

We need a plan and some steel spine inserts among members of the judiciary to head that off. We’re going to need the whole country to recognize that risk in advance. We’re going to need every lawyer in the country to recognize it as their calling to fight it. We’re going to need to call it what it is when it inevitably happens. And we’re going to have to actively resist it.

And then there’s civil society. Is there a more boring term in the world that doesn’t include the word "committee" or "budget"? No, there isn’t. Civil society, though, is kind of where the rest of us are at, right? Civil society is one of the things that I think of as soft food for authoritarians. They often don’t even have to bite that hard to crush it. All the organizations, membership groups, advocacy groups, professional associations, every voluntary group of every kind in the country, everything in organized American life and culture that is not business and not the government either—that is civil society.

And authoritarians need to crush that because it’s not about them. Strongman leaders have a tendency to become not just leaders of the government, not just dictators, but totalitarians because they can’t have anything going on in the country that isn’t about them or for them. And a strong civil society, therefore, must be crushed, right? If you have a strong civil society, that gives people breathing room to think for themselves, to organize in their own interest, to speak with the power of more than just one person.

We need assurances from civil society leaders today that they’re not going anywhere and that they will fight for our democracy too.

And frankly, it’s not just the leaders. We all need to participate in more civil society things than we have before to make sure that we are taking up space that otherwise they’re going to try to take for the government and the dear leader. And what I mean by this in short is: join something. It doesn’t really matter what it is. But you want right now to be connected to other Americans and not isolated on your own.

So, deep breaths, hydrate, maybe time to get back in shape. Do you have any burned bridges in your past? Un-burn them. Reconnect with people, whether it’s your family or the people on your block or in your town, your old friends from school, that book club, that Indivisible group maybe. Reconnect or connect for the first time. 

Join something, join something. 

If this election was about one candidate who stood for the American form of government and another who stood for getting rid of that because America is a garbage can and "I alone can fix it, just give me all the power, and I’ll do it all." If that was the choice in this election, then the aftermath of the American people making the choice they did in this election is not just the end, right? It’s not just, oh, it’s over. It means we’re now entering into a contest.

It will now be an effort on his side to put that into practice, right? To put strongman, authoritarian government into practice. And it will be an effort on the other side, an ongoing, continuing, and now newly urgent effort on the other side to let him know that it’s not going to be easy.

These next few days and weeks, if they really are going to try to dismantle the American form of government, including firing all federal employees, right, including rounding up their enemies, including opening internment camps to hold millions of people, threatening military force against their perceived enemies—if they really are going to try to undermine the American system of government, which is what they’ve made this campaign about, then in the next days and weeks, they are going to be testing to see what they can get away with without pushback.

They are going to do the things they can do easily, and they will have to put off the things that turn out to be hard. So, what’s going to be hard for them? That’s where the American people come in. We do not only work for our country and for our democracy in elections; we work for our country and for our democracy against anyone, anywhere, anytime who seeks to do it harm. And so there’s, there’s a lot to do.

Time doesn’t stop. History doesn’t stop. We have stuff to do. Millions of Americans woke up today to the realization that, although you worked as hard as you could to try to bring about the election outcome you wanted, you did not get the election outcome you wanted. And so now what that means is that there is a whole new raft of stuff to do.

Hope you are feeling scrappy. Hope you are tapping into your inner pirate energy because it is one thing to be a defender of the realm. It is another thing to be in opposition. And opposition can be a lot of things. It can be dangerous. It can also be fun. It would have been nice to win the election. Didn’t. OK. Time to save the country."

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January 8, 2024

Psst! You're a windbag!



Hey you! You're a windbag. ๐Ÿ˜ฎ‍๐Ÿ’จ


๐ŸŒฌ️๐ŸŒฌ️๐ŸŒฌ️

Sure, you're an esteemed expert and authority in your field.

You're sought out for the value you bring to conferences.

You have knowlege and experience that's not easy to find in a speaker.

But...

๐ŸŸข You looooove to hear yourself talk.
๐ŸŸฃ Your ratio of lecture to engagement is wayyyy off.
๐ŸŸก You're so verbose that your audience can't even breathe.
๐Ÿ”ต Your language is anything but plain, and way over their heads.

You've been doing this so long, that you've forgotten the most basic concepts about giving a presentation:

๐ŸŸฃYou can't expect bored attendees to learn or retain your material.
๐ŸŸ You can't just pour information into people like they're empty vessels.
๐ŸŸขYou have to tailor your content so it's relevant, practical and useful to them.
๐Ÿ”ดYou have to balance what you need and want with what they need and want.

Some of my "windiest" and driest clients have been academics, CEOs, healthcare professionals, financial advisors, and lawyers, who realized that the piece missing from their presentations was engagement.

✅They know their stuff.
✅They're highly experienced.
✅They're not nervous about speaking.

But they're missing that critical element that creates a complete experience for their audiences—and by the way, the element that creates a more fun experience for themselves!

Are you missing the audience engagement piece? Reach out and let's talk!


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September 14, 2023

If you're not nervous, your presentation might suffer



If you're not nervous, your presentation might suffer.

It doesn't mean you have to be shaking in your boots to give a good performance (because that's not good for anyone), and it doesn't mean that you can't experience incredible energy and a sense of flow and connection during the performance.

What it means is that, in order to do a good job, we have to *care.* We have to be committed to delivering our best AND delivering what the audience needs, wants, and cares about. And there is ALWAYS uncertainty when you're getting in front of a group for the first time.

I'm giving my first significant keynote in December. Yes, I'm nervous! That doesn't mean I don't have 100% confidence in my ability to deliver an amazing experience. It just means that I care!

Top speakers, athletes, and entertainers will always be nervous before an event because they're committed to excellence, and they don't rest on their laurels of previous successes.

Here's a snippet of a conversation between Eddie Murphy and Jerry Seinfeld, from Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee:

Eddie: "The times I've gotten on stage and felt totally loose with no energy of being uncomfortable at all, I would do shitty. I wouldn't have as strong a set."

Jerry responds.

Eddie: You gotta have a little bit of "What if this shit doesn't... what if they don't get all of this shit?" I always do best when I have a little bit of that.

And here's a conversation between Conan O'Brien and Chris Farley, after Chris Farley took a pratfall in his character of motivational speaker Matt Foley:

Conan: "The falling down helps, right? Always gets a laugh."

Chris: "Yeah, it breaks the ice a little bit...."

Chris: "....It's like a first hit in football. It takes the butterflies away. 'Cause I was backstage like, going, 'Oh God—they're gonna know I'm dumb!' So I just fall down, try to do something physical."

Some people are so petrified that they avoid public speaking at all costs. Some get a little stage fright right before beginning their presentations, and it goes away quickly.

And a manageable amount of nervousness is beneficial to a speaker. For one thing, it's a signal to your body that you're in a heightened state of awareness. (I'll be talking more about this in my new course, FYI!)

Nervousness is a part of public speaking like crashes are part of the Tour de France. The best way to deal with nervousness is not to try to eradicate it, but to learn to manage it as a tool and use it to your advantage.

๐Ÿงช๐Ÿฆ ๐Ÿง Want to learn more about the biology, chemistry and psychology behind public speaking nerves, and also learn how to manage your nervousness, channel the adrenaline, and work on your mindset around the adrenaline rush?

I've got a new course coming out JUST on public speaking nerves and stage fright. Comment below or message me to get the link when I make it available for pre-order at a special rate.

(Pic: Here I am feeling super relaxed AFTER speaking on a panel.)



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August 21, 2023

Make a fool of yourself



When we were in LA recently, I made my husband drive around the block into an alley with this blue wall, and then take about a hundred pictures of me so I could make graphics like this one. ๐Ÿ“ธ

Do I feel foolish doing these poses in public while people walk and drive by?

Maybe a little. ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿป

My husband is very patient with my requests; he knows that any time we go somewhere together, I might ask him to stop in a weird place and take some weird pictures.

But taking silly pictures and videos in public is probably the LEAST embarrassing thing I do on a regular basis.

I make a fool of myself practically every time I give a presentation. And every time I learn from it.

I learn what works, what doesn't work, how to recover from mishaps, and how to engage my audience more effectively.

I put myself out there because that's how I grow as a person and as a presenter.

Every time I enter a microfiction contest, I risk embarrassing myself with a story that readers don't get, or that doesn't place, even though I thought it was good.

Or maybe I didn't think it was good, but entered it anyway because it was the best I could do given the prompts and the 24-hour constraints.

Some thoughts on a Sunday: Stop worrying about embarrassing yourself. Just get out there, make mistakes, look foolish. Get out of your comfort zone, push past the discomfort and create learning experiences for yourself!

P.S. Also, if you have a chubby gut and a double chin, take the picture anyway.

What have you done lately to look foolish on purpose? Share your thoughts below! ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿผ



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August 14, 2023

Sometimes you're not meant to be part of the conversation



I was once reading a conversation started by a Black person about anti-Black hate crimes, and I thought it would be helpful to mention antisemitism and the hate crimes that Jews experience.

Why did I think that would be helpful? ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿป

Maybe I thought Black people needed to know that Jews are also victims of violence? (Nope, they already know that.)

Maybe I thought I was offering solidarity? (I wasn't. I was making it about myself.)

Maybe I thought the conversation needed "different perspectives?" (It didn't. It was a conversation meant to educate and bring awareness about people's lived experiences, not to ask for different opinions.)

This was a huge learning experience for me, realizing that sometimes it's not actually about ME. Sometimes my opinion or perspective is not needed or relevant. ๐Ÿคฏ

As a communication junkie and natural-born opinionated bigmouth, I have spent my life inserting myself into conversations that were not meant for me. I tend to think my opinion is incredibly valuable and worthwhile and that everyone should hear it. ๐Ÿ“ข

Now, if I want to create awareness of antisemitism, I can make my own post. I can share my own resources. I don't need to hijack someone else's post about their lived experience and try to insert my own, when it's not relevant.

I'm unlearning some things. Just because people are talking publicly about something on social media doesn't mean they want to hear "my side of the story."

Sometimes a topic is open for discussion and different perspectives.

Sometimes there's only ONE SIDE and we need to just shut up and listen. ๐Ÿ‘‚๐Ÿผ

To clarify:

Men: learn from the experiences of women.

White women: learn from the experiences of Black women and WOC.

White people: learn from the experiences of Black people and POC.

Straight people: learn from the experiences of LGBTQ+ people.

Cisgender people: learn from the experiences of trans and nonbinary people.

Non-disabled people: learn from the experiences of people with disabilities.

Etc.

Most of us have multiple identities, so listen to the ones you are not a part of!



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August 7, 2023

Do your slides advance and enhance your message?



Me: Introduces the Van Gogh of slides.
Audience: So, about those quarterly reports.

When you're using slides, you have to balance visual engagement and relevant information. ⚖️

A slide that's beautiful but doesn't advance your message is just as pointless as a slide with 12 bullets and a title that says, "Why Bother? No Choice Soon = Science (testing) Advances, Media 'Instant Messaging' Globally, Risk Management, Sustainability No Longer Altruistic." (Yes, a real slide from a conference I attended.) ๐Ÿ˜•

I'm a huge fan of slides, and I use them in most of my presentations.

However, I don't use bullets or more than two lines of text. Rather, I focus on one simple idea per slide, illustrated with a relevant image (sometimes humorous, and always something that enhances the point I'm making).

There is no opportunity for the participants to:

๐Ÿ”ธread ahead and plan their arguments or disagreements

๐Ÿ”ธread ahead and start Googling the point

๐Ÿ”ธget distracted by something at the bottom of the slide they don't understand

๐Ÿ”ธnot follow what I'm saying because they're so busy reading

๐Ÿ”ธstrain their eyes trying to read miniscule text

I love slides, and at the same time, I only love them when they're relevant, practical and useful to the participants - and enhance and advance the message I'm trying to convey.

Do your slides advance and enhance your message? Or are they actually a hindrance to your message?

P.S. How do you like my meme? ๐Ÿ˜† 



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July 31, 2023

Are your identities "real?"



Are you a "real" writer? A "real" artist? A "real" speaker?๐Ÿค”

I've published a nonfiction book, a microfiction story, and I write practically every day, as well as competing in writing challenges. I even wrote a children's book that I've never published.

Why does it feel weird to call myself a writer?

Do you have the same barrier?๐Ÿงฑ

We watched the movie "A Little White Lie," and this bit of dialogue hurt:

"Teresa: I'm excited for the students to meet, like, a real writer.

Shriver: Well, aren't there plenty of real writers here? T., Simone?

Teresa: It's like the only place you can find their books is in the college bookstore in the local author section."

Ouch.๐Ÿค•

You can't find my book in brick and mortar bookstores. It's on Amazon and some other online sites, and I have a couple boxes in my office for events and clients. But it's not a best seller or known by more than probably a thousand people.

Even though I write every day, how many people see it? Not many, in the grand scheme of things.

So can I call myself a writer? If I'm not famous? If I don't make a living at it?

Well, yes. Yes I can.

Because I decide what my identities are. I'm a "real" writer.๐Ÿ“

An electrician has to go through training and then an apprenticeship, gain thousands of hours of experience, then take an exam and get an certificate before they can even apply for a license.

Of course, writing, speaking and making art aren't as dangerous as electrical work, and I would like to know an electrician won't kill me or himself working in my house.⚡๐Ÿ”Œ

But if there isn't some external "proof" of your identities, how can you know what to call yourself?

My husband paints; his art is all over our house. Has he sold any? No. Does he have formal training? No. Is he an artist? He hesitates to own that identity, but yes, he is.

I used to market my programs and coaching to "speakers," but I realized that so many of the business presenters I work with—who speak as part of their jobs or as a way to gain visibility and credibility—don't identify as "real" speakers.

So they didn't see themselves in my marketing!๐Ÿ’ก

Now I call them something they can identify with: "business presenters" or "people who speak for their organization." That one's a little awkward. ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿป

How about you? Are you uncomfortable identifying yourself a certain way because you don't feel "real?"

How would it feel to say "I'm a speaker," "I'm a writer," "I'm an artist," "I'm an athlete," or "Insert yours here?"๐ŸŽ‰

P.S. Also, transgender and nonbinary people have real identities, whether you believe in them or not.

๐Ÿ‘‡๐ŸผShare your thoughts below! 



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